Intimacy is important in any relationship or marriage. Efforts and hard works are required to maintain marriage and intimacy. Here we have some simple challenges and practices that you can try out to generate and strengthen your intimacy level with your spouse or partner.
Reminder: You may feel awkward in the first place, but keep practicing you will find it helpful. However, another thing you need to keep in mind is that, have a open and honest conversation and action after every session.
Penetrate into your eyes
Step 1: Have your partner sit facing you in a quiet, private place. No more than 3 feet away from each other.
Step 2: Set a timer for five minutes. Do not talk during this time.
Step 3: Gently stare into each other’s eyes. Take time to really look into each other. Even more so, let yourself be truly seen. You’ll feel a lot of internal resistance. Allow the anxiety, the thoughts in your head about how “stupid this is” to just be. Feel it and notice what is going on inside your body as you deeply connect with your partner. Intentionally lower your emotional barriers. As you feel the connection, relax into the gaze of your partners. Your eyes should feel warm and gentle.
Step 4: After the timer goes off, discuss what you felt and listen to how your partner felt.
Get in touch with you
Step 1: Stand facing your partner a few feet away. Take a few seconds to balance yourself. You should feel well-grounded in your feet. Relax yourself.
Step 2: Walk towards your partner without losing your stability.
Step 3: Get close enough to your partner that you can easily put your arms around your partner without feeling off balance. Imagine that if your partner lightly pushes or pulls you, you won’t lose your balance. Shift your stance or position as needed so you feel comfortable. Comfort is required for relaxation.
Step 4: Let yourself relax into the hug. Take deep breaths and remember to keep breathing. Do your best to relax. This won’t be easy at first.
Step 5: Note your internal resistances. Do your best not to give into them.
Step 6: Notice what each of your five senses are feeling. The smell of your partner’s neck and hair. What do you hear? A heartbeat? Their breathing patterns? How does your body feel? Warm? Loved?
Step 7: Stop when either you or your partner pulls away. Do this for at least 1 minute.
Step 8: Talk about any internal resistance you might have felt with your partner.
Follow your rhythm
Step 1: Lay on your side facing your partner on your bed (or floor). Get comfortable.
Step 2: Gently touch your foreheads together. Tilt your chin down slightly so your noses aren’t pressed against each other.
Step 3: With your foreheads touching, breathe ten deep, slow breaths in sync with your partner. In and out. Don’t start by telling them how to breathe. Start by breathing separately at your own pace and listen to each other. After a few breaths you’ll sync up and start to breathe the same way.
Step 4: Relax and feel connected to your partner. Note any anxiety or thoughts that come up and let them pass so you can relax and connect with your partner even more.
Step 5: Discuss any anxieties or thoughts that came up with your partner after you’re done. This gives you an opportunity to get closer to your partner by sharing your inner world.
Feel your presence
Step 1: Focus on engaging your partner during sex. Focus on what they are feeling. What touch makes them move? What kind of thrust makes them moan?
Step 2: Stop trying to make your partner orgasm. Enjoy the moment, the sensations. Try to cultivate a deeper emotional connection. Explore what it’s like to focus on us and not me.
Get connected thoroughly
Sex shows the most vulnerable surfaces of the body in the most openly exposing positions. This experience causes many to only have sex with the lights off; to close their eyes and avoid eye contact so their partner cannot see the real vulnerable self-lurking in the windows to their souls.
True sexual intimacy requires vulnerability. It requires a willingness to be seen and see your partner. Eyes-Open Sex doesn’t need steps to explain. It requires a deeper look at yourself and a willingness to face the anxiety of being seen in your most vulnerable state by the one you love most. This is not an easy experience. When you manage to do it, you will feel the intensity of sex skyrocketed and deeply connected. Eyes-Open Sex is the sum of all of the challenges we’ve done up to now. It requires the most courage to try.
Try these steps out to enhance your intimacy and get your Gorgeousss nightwear to spark your interaction with your loved one.
Intimacy is not purely physical. It’s the act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see into their soul.